The Violet Violet has a lot of will, as it has only two years, in English it's called the "terrible twos" in psychological terms it's called the opposition phase, and long Violette us go crazy to go to bed.
But finally, last night I got it to decide for even go to bed alone. Okay it happened at 9 o'clock in the evening 2 hours after the official curfew, but nevertheless, after asking for the nth time: "You want to go to sleep, or you want to sit on your chair? " she finally said, "go sleep", she got up and went to bed alone after carefully closing the door of his bedroom. I admit I was very impressed by his perseverance to sit in his chair (it was the market: in bed or chair), despite his obvious fatigue, but I was surprised at my own patience.
(now Violet collapsed sleep at 5:30, and she left for the night)
This probably came from my exchange with Matty, the former Montessori teacher Elodie which took place during the open days of the school. Exchange which was then extended to the house when Matty came for coffee. During his visit, the three "big" did a parade of costumes from the costume box, it was hilarious. Matty
me once again repeated the same precepts of education, and although I know quite well, a little refreshment from time to time do much good. Including stroke "no".
When a parent says "no" has a child, he expects an immediate response, the child will stop immediately and obey "without thinking".
But when a child says "no" to a parent, then it becomes an unacceptable answer, a correct behavior ... and yet it is well known that children do imitate their parents.
One solution is to offer children choices to give him a choice: "You want to eat your meat alone, or you want me to help?" Or "yes you can have ice when it will be hot "
Even today, whenever I'm surprised saying no, I quickly corrected by turning it into a choice:
Elodie: I do not want to go to bed immediately, I remained standing.
Dad: no, go to bed right now is the time when we had to decide that you would go to bed ... (Oops) if you want to stay up later, then you must store your office and pick up all cases that are on the ground.
Elodie: ok, I'll do that (instead of the usual wah-wah when I wear it to bed)
So I had a great weekend with the kids and everyone is relaxed.
[Update: thank you to Lawrence for her grammar lesson is that I do not often the opportunity to write in French, but it quickly returns]